SIN OF TRUST So many parents are so sure of their children that they do not bother to check the things they do behind them, their philosophy about life, their closest friends etc. Children's mind, different researches have shown, are open to every lessons offer from every source.
It is very important for parents to see their children as those they must pay full attention to and train in morals and norms rather than see them as angels who already know the right things to do and are willing to do them.
From my personal experience, and having passed through teen age, I know that aside from the school syllabus which is the primary reason for going to school there are other teachers in school who are there to teach harmful lessons. These teachers are mates in schools who are assumed to have also come to school to learn but who have learnt things it took their fathers years to learn in a little while and are ready to download it to your kids. Believe it or not children learn a lot of negative things in school and pretend at home as if they are so innocent.
I hear parents from time to time talking about how much they trust their child or children and these are children who spend much of their time outside their view. To say you trust your children and not take time to check what they are actually learning most is to endanger your future.
A family once lives in my neighbourhood; a father, a mother and two children. Looking at the family from the distance you would see a family that is happily one but, when you come closer you would see a father who is too busy and a mother who is too full of praise and trust for her children; she thought she knew too well. Unknown to her, her gentle innocent son was a member of a notorious cult at 14 and her daughter was nothing less than a slut at 16; angels at home demons elsewhere. It was too late when she discovered how wrong she was.
Do not get me wrong, I am not saying you should show mistrust for your children but I suggest you create time to always observe your children so that you can identify any wrong learning or unwanted lessons and set them back on the right part. Else it would be likened to a gradual virus attack on your computer, if you do not prevent and cure when necessary; you might loose every valuable data on your computer. So, while you should love your child or children and provide best of everything for them you would be happy in future when you see your children doing well by not shying away from your responsibility of guiding them today.
It might be so tough on you if you discovered that the angels you are always full of praises for are worst than the devils you know. But I know your case would not be like that for I believe you would from today pay better attention to your children. A local saying of Yoruba people of Nigeria goes thus "the child we refuse to build would one day sell the castles we built" and squander the proceeds like the biblical prodigal son I expect.
I HOPE YOU ARE AWARE, THAT YOUR CHILDREN ARE YOUR SEEDS WHICH ONE OF YOUR MOST IMPORTANT HARVEST IN LIFE DEPEND ON. DO NOT BE CARELESS.
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